Written by Counselor Adofoli
Someone once said to me, sweet things are best enjoyed when you close your eyes, citing that’s some of the reason why some people close their eyes when they kiss and this is also why people enjoy sleep when they are having sweet dreams. Same reason some people closed their eyes to everything when they fall in love. The pay deaf ears to all the warming, advice and red flags.
The truth is, no matter how new your ride is, how smooth your road is, it senseless driving with your eyes close. You risk losing your life, not even a fool with do that.
You don’t need to close your eyes when you fall in love, it time for you to be vigilant. You don’t close your eyes to the things you doubt or have question mark about your partner, you don’t pay deaf ears to the pieces of advices from your loved ones and enemies even when it goes against your relationship.
Many at times, what we called love is not really love. It rather sickness and we need to be careful when we think we are in love. Day in day out, people we meet on regular basic fall in love with our look; our smiles and before we could say jack, they are gone before tears drop.
In tears is when you need shoulder to hold on to, it when you need them most and not in smiles. You need someone who fall in love with your scars instead of your smiles, such person won’t leave and the best way to be sure you have such a person is to open your eyes, watch their actions and not let their words put you to sleep. You might be surprised to wake up to empty arms. It hurts to know you can’t have them in your arms yet they have stolen your heart. The invisible tenant of the heart is what I called them. You feel their presence yet they are missing in person.
Anyone who fall in love with your scars, sees you beautiful every day. Days may fade away; your beautiful will fade away but their love for you continues. When you face challenges, they look for ways and means to keep the union. Unlike those who fall in love with your smiles, they look for reasons to leave, excuse why they can’t stay. They can’t stand challenges. To them, love is only about romance and once you face challenges in your relationship, romance disappear, you need a caring partner to be able to bring that back.
Fall in love with someone who is the reason for your smiles and not someone who look for smiles in your face to fall in love with you. The one who is behind your smiles care about you more than you do, understands you, is forgiving and finds no joy living without you. But the one who falls in love with your smiles is interesting in what he or she is getting and once their expectations are not meet, you become replaceable.
In conclusion “Those who are good travel a road that avoids evil; so watch where you are going—it may save your life” – Proverbs 16:17 (GNT).
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